When it come to marriage, its no
child play. It is not meant for children and must be taking serious. But as a young lady who is in a relationship and you
are expecting, yet to accept or have accepted a marriage proposal from him, it is strongly
advice that you sit back and ask yourself again and again some questions and be able to answer them correctly then you can tell where you are heading to which is very important
in a lifetime partnership.
These questions pointed out here are not in any way all that you can ask. The questions are inexhaustible if they are to be mention and the arrangement of these questions are not
in a particular order.
1.
What
is the purpose of the marriage?
Marriage
should have a desired result that is to be realized which is then an influence of ones belief and culture. Having
this in mind should set if not the first step into making a decision if to accept
the proposal or not. Ask him question to find out if he have a desired result based on his belief or his culture which he intends to pursue and realize. If not, you will enter into a
non-objective pursuit in life.
2.
What
is marriage?
One
among many things that you must know is what marriage itself is. You cannot
afford to enter into marriage if you don’t know why it is instituted and its dos and don’ts. Marriage will
not give you the opportunity to know or learn what it’s all about when you
enter into it like a blind person. You need to know everything about it first.
3.
Am
I ready for what he is asking?
You
should be rest assured that you will know that you are ready for marriage even
before accepting proposal when you begin to notice the following. But entering into it when you are not even sure if
you are ready or not may cost you much labour, bitterness and a lifetime of
regret.
4.
Can
I support him?
This is in all why he is proposing to you. to help and support him accomplish a purpose. But to ask yourself if you can help him is important to know? Whatever is his dream, occupation or pursuit, you should be able to find out if you are the best help meet for him to become a
successful individual? Note that this does not centers on these alone nor
on house works but in every area he will need you.
5.
Is
he responsible?
Taking
responsibility is a call to man and that is what makes him gain honour and respect. If he can’t take responsibility, he can’t take care and respect you nor can he manage the house but If he can be accountable and answerable, then be sure that you will be
fine.
6.
What
would be my role in the marriage?
Ah!
You can’t afford to accept a marriage proposal and enter into a lifetime partnership
while you are still ignorant of your roles or what his expectations are from you. You need to ask him what he expect from you. Reading books written by couples who have spent
years in marriage will help you find out others role. Asking questions on what
the roles and duties of a wife are will also go along way.
7. Will i be responsible?
Maturity
is not just of age but also of the development of the mind. Just as you need him to be responsible and take responsibilities, you also must be. You must know also that being responsible and taking responsibilities is also your call in the partnership.
8.
Will
he support me?
This is also why you accepted his proposal just as why he wanted you to accept the proposal. To help and support one another. Supporting one another is the pillar for strong relationships or marriage. He should also be able to be helpful and supportive to you.
9.
What
does he spend most of his time doing?
Whatever
a man give much attention to, he spend much of his time on it. He will give
much priority to it and spend more on it in terms of finance and energy. If you can check
this before accepting his proposal, discuss the matter if any, then that will help solve a future problem in the present. This is of cause very important to know in a
relationship.
10. Will I spend the rest of my life
with him?
This
is the question he will be asking you when he goes on his kneel to make a
proposal “would you spend the rest of
your life with me?” If it doesn’t settle in you, then you must quietly answer the question in your heart and accept its realities. That is when you will finally be saying "YES" to his proposal.
As said
earlier, this list is inexhaustible. Along with this if you are in a relationship
and you are expecting or yet to accept a proposal, it s recommended that you
attend marriage preparation courses or Pre-marital Counseling where these questions
and many others are discussed.
If you have
any other question you would add to the list please enter them in the comments.
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